Making A Ripped / Distressed Jean Shorts Out Of An Old Pants | D.I.Y.

I have this knee-length denim pants that I don't wear anymore . The main reason is I find it ugly ? and it is not so wearable for me cause I am a hoochie right now ? HAHA , JUST KIDDING , it's just a slight change in my choice of fashion , I prefer wearing full-length pants or short shorts now .At the moment I wanted to get rid of this pants , the colour and the cutting of this pants caught my attention. I think I could modify it a little bit to give it a new lease of life ! So , I did it !

This was how the pants originally looked like . 
quite baggy too in a weird way .

These are what you have to get 

To cut the pants to a shorter length

•  A pair of scissors 
• A pencil/chalk
• A shorts (optional)
• A pair of tongs

To rip/distress the shorts 

• A pair of tweezers 
• A needle
• A pair of scissors 

Step One | Lay It Down

Aim : To proceed to the next step .

Once you lay your pants on a flat surface , this is what you see ,

you will see a cross at the middle , or you will see the line , where two pieces of fabrics meet (beside the red line I've drawn) 

Step Two | Hide The Line 

Aim : you will get the same length (front and back ) when you wear this pants , taking into account for the space to accomodate your buns .

Pull the front piece of the fabric down , until the line ( mentioned earlier ) is hidden when you see it perpendicularly (90 degrees) from the top .

Don't forget to hide the line at the sides too .

Hiding the line , DOES NOT  mean that you have to put the line behind

I meant to fold it along the line

By the time you're done , you will see a big grin =D at the waistline of the pants 

Step Three | Mark the Hemlines 

Aim : To determine the length of your pants , a slut or a prude , just kidding .

There are two ways to do it , but since you stick to the steps mentioned previously , this is the ideal way to do it  . 

Take your own shorts and lay it on top of the old pants , taking that as a reference , decide your desired length , take a pencil or a chalk , draw a line .

The line should be a little elevated as it goes to the side ( away from your leg gap /body )

As for me , I draw the hemline longer than my shorts because , 

• I want some space to make the hemline to look distressed / ripped (next step )
• It's kinda skimpy for me to have that emerald blue shorts 

Step Four | Chop It Off

Aim : to see if you have logic

What's next ? you know it , don't you ? grab a pair of scissors and do what you are supposed to do !

Use both of your hands , another hand to hold the fabric , so you will a perfect cut ! In this case , my right hand is holding my camera =)

Step Five | Messy Hemlines

Aim : apply physics principles , Inertia . 

After you've done cutting the excess fabrics , it's time to make the hemlines look better !

Grab a pair of tongs , place it inwards across the hemline around one inch and pull out (outwards) the tongs with suitable amount of force .

If you want the treads to cascade vertically down (blue circle) your pants , apply more force , quickly 

If you want the treads to stay hanging out of your pants (red circle) , apply lesser force , in a slower manner .

Step Six | Clean Cuts 

Aim : to make you look like a beggar /homeless

I started to ruin my pocket first , just the pocket , the fabric underneath is left untouched ! 

Fold the fabric , so you can cut it , you can either just make a slit of length , less than 5 cm  or 

the safer way is , make a very small slit first , unfold it and continue the slit from there ( the slit will be straighter and neater )

Make a few slits , 1 or 2 cm between the previous slit you have made , so there shall be a few slits that are parallel to each other , each with different length , to make it messier 

Step Seven | Threads Out ! 

Aim : To make you look more like a beggar /homeless

So , there are two ways to do this , and both will bring you two (type) different results 

Here's something you have to know ( just in case , you're oblivious ! )

• Jeans are made in the way their treads are horizontal and vertical , like a net or a mesh .
• here are the two types of results you will get from the two different ways .

Type One

  

To proceed in the first way (type one ) , the area you have to work on is the space between the two     slits

  

 Use a needle to prick out the horizontal threads (near the slits)  , perpendicular to the                            slits , downwards, just a little , until you see some threads come out .

                   Grab your tweezers and pull out the vertical threads , carefully and slowly , the horizontal                    threads are really delicate , make sure you don't snap them ! 

                   You can use a needle to loosen up the vertical threads , so that it will be faster when you                      pull out the vertical threads

                  A few more threads to go and it's almost done ! 

Type Two

Basically , this is the lazier and simpler way .

To do this , its better if the space between the slits are wider .

Just use a needle to prick the top and bottom of the slit to pull out some horizontal threads

DO NOT pull out the vertical threads .

And you're done ! Have fun and good luck  =D  It's super easy 

All photos are taken with Nikon D5200 by myself without edits nor filters(because im lazy ) 

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Love,
Kaylyn Ang

Dealing With Unreasonable People (Parents/Partner etc.) 。Warzone Version

Meeting different kinds of people with very different personalities  , have you ever met people that sometimes make you so happy and you're so grateful that they are there for you . The next moment they might turn into someone that you find it's difficult to get along with them or you just got so annoyed by them ,without any expectation or any omen ? They might make you so confused with life and you wish everything were just a dream ? You wish they were there for you but you wish they just get out of your sight right immediately at the same time . How ironic, huh ? But there's none other than you, who knows what you want the most , I mean your priority =) You know you can't live without them , or you can ? Well it depends how much they take up the space in your heart , and how you wish that connection goes , to keep it or to ruin it ? Well , when you've ran out of choices , deal with it ! Wonder why I named it 'warzone version' ? In short , it's all about dealing with unreasonable , loud and mean (to a certain extend ) people.This post is directed to people dealing with unreasonable CLOSED ONES

Get To Know The Types Of Unreasonable People 
(according to wikihow.com)

The Arguer - Argues very often ,they will insist they are correct and you are the jerk who is creating all the drama or the source of an argument . They are firm to their stance and you will not expect them to change their mind .

The Explosive - Infuriated even at the smallest matter , scolding mean words to you making you feel so useless , argue more violently than the arguers . They yell and even hurt you , be it slapping you or kicking you , pulling your hair , et cetera.They are like possessed , like a bear with a soar head and they are not their usual self for sure .

The Passive-aggressive - They are silent , will not tell you what's wrong and you will  notice something is wrong through the way they behave in front of you . They use avoid you , don't talk to you and make you feel guilty and confused without showing their dissatisfaction directly . They act like they are okay but you know they are not.In short , it's like how the public see all women as....... they like the 'cold war' ? okay whatever ! 

Oh well , not sure if it is true .

Situation 1 | In The 'Warzone'

1) Never Reason With Them
 Trying to reason out an issue with them is a complete nuisance .They will not accept any reasonable reasoning and that will not be an argument that makes sense at the moment . Everything you explain will fall on deaf ears , they will not listen .Trying to explain just make things worse and you might go insane ,seriously ! The more you explain , the more misunderstanding you guys will have because they are often very manipulative. If you really want to do this to clear things up, do this when everyone is calm and in a good mood .(It's better not to , because they are unreasonable !)

2) Put Yourself in their shoes
Try to figure out why they are being like that , think ! There's always a reason behind something . As you are deep into thought , you will not pay much attention to the 'explosive' argument  , and i believe you will be distracted and feel more comfortable in the 'warzone' . The loud noises fade away as you go into deep thinking.

3) Go With The Flow
Just agree with them whatever they are saying , even though it's not the truth . Just nod and agree despite being slandered and the whole argument is a grievance to you . You might feel really uneasy and mentally torturous to a certain extend , but it's always better not to make things complicated at this fiery moment.


4)Remain Passive /Not Reactive/Not Defensive
An argument will not be long if it is one-sided . Wait , is it even called an argument ? Well , whatever it is ,never speak for yourself or defend yourself , if you really hate being in the 'warzone'. keep quiet and listen or pretend you're listening . Make them feel like they are the only one talking , they will find it pointless and it will stop as soon as possible .

5) Calm Yourselves
Remain calm , if they are in a fiery mood , you should be the one who is cool , to extinguish the fire ! If they are mad , and you are mad , they situation will not be good for both .  Alright , to make you understand better , this can be explained using the yin and yang concept according to Chinese philosophy. The chinese word Yin comes out to mean "shady side" and Yang "sunny side". Yin Yang is the concept of duality forming a whole . For example , night (Yin) and day (Yang) and to apply this concept to this situation , anger complements cool ! Close your eyes, take a deep breathe , calm down bro !

6) Calm Them 
Show them the fact that you're worried about them for being so angry / emotional . Tell them to calm down a little bit and show that you care for them , to be specific , their health . They might realize that you actually care for them and this might divert the reason why did the the argument happen . If they are someone special or close to you , give them a warm cuddle and mutter some comforting words to them. "Bae / bro ,I dont wish that we argue so much " , or the simplest one " (insert name) , I love you ,bae. These simple phrases might make them realise that they are appreciated and everyone enjoys being loved ! 

7)Keep interaction and Communication At Minimum
Mentioned earlier , refer # 1) , the more you speak , the deeper the misunderstanding is . Words can easily provoke them and make it worse . It's just best to agree with them and never talk back . I know what you're thinking right now , " but I'm just explaining , I'm not talking back ". No matter what it is ,THEY ASSUME EVERY WORDS FROM YOU AS BEING RUDE /TALKING BACK , cause they are unreasonable , remember ?  When they think you are rude , this compounds to the root of the argument ( another issue/dispute) , two is more than one , so this will make things worst . Explain when you guys are in a great mood , choose the right moment , It's important to make things clear ! If you can bear with it , of course its better not to explain . 

8) Remind Yourself That They Care About You
Always tell yourself that they are just concern about you , want the best for you , that's why they are reacting too overboard sometimes .Be grateful . If it's someone really close ,  she/he is being overprotective over you . I would say she /he is suffocating you with love and care . Good and bad at the same time , having someone who shower you with love and at the same time , do it too much which tends to leave you feeling stressed. 

9) Never Escape the 'Warzone' deliberately 
The unreasonable someone is speaking as if they are pouring everything out of their mind without filters. Its normal when they mentioned something really mean or affects you a lot . Whatever it is , never excuse yourself from the 'warzone' , they will be really pissed off and i'm sure you don't want what happens next . You might inflict domestic violence with just that movement, that makes you feel better temporarily . 

10) Admit Your Mistake or 'Mistake' .
If they are confronting you of your mistake or 'mistake' , just apologise and promise you will change. I know it's difficult ( if you really did not do anything wrong) , but it's for better. Pride and dignity is NOT IMPORTANT when you're dealing with unreasonable people , so don't be silly that you can win them .

11)What Doesnt Kill You Makes You Stronger
"What ? so you tell me not to explain , reason out  (#1, #4 #7) , satisfy whatever they want ( #10 ) , keep silent ( #3 ,#4) , how can i do it ? It will drive me crazy , seriously ?" These might be the words that is on your mind now , you are proven to be impatient , prioritize justice too much , care too much , sensitive . But don't worry , most of us are like that , we all need time to get along with unreasonable people BUT don't be too hard on yourself . Remember what Kelly Clarkson conveys her message in her song ? " What doesn't kill you makes you stronger " . Exactly , you will be a better person (in terms of EQ or a.k.a emotional intelligence ) so if suicide is on your mind right now , it's a big fat-o NO from me . Its not worth it , you will have some additional knowledge in life which will be really useful in future . 

Situation 2 | Just Got Outta The 'Warzone'

1) Find Someone Who Understands
I know it will not be easy , if you obey all the advices from me up there ( which is the best TO ME ) , it's really crucial to have some aftermathpsychotherapy (just a name i came up with , don't search in google ,HAHA )to counteract your experience. Find someone who can relate to your problem , someone who experiences the same thing as you . Most of the time , its not only they are unreasonable , their siblings might have the same characteristics. Talk to their sibling's partner or children . They might be the perfect listener .

2) Find Someone Closest To You / Trusted True Friends
They know you the best , they are your best listener . I'm sure they feel you  , they can offer you some cosy cuddle and lend you a shoulder too ! best feeling ever !

3) Temporal Escape From Reality
If you don't have someone that you feel comfortable to open up with , temporal escape is good enough , don't think of suicide when i mentioned the word escape , that's not a choice and that is permenant escape which is a terrible sin ! There's a lot of choices for a temporary getaway 

• travel - Drive yourself to somewhere therapeutic , it can be by the beach , you might wanna go for a dive , dive into the underwater world , rid of the human world for a while ! 
• sleep- Its like death but better than death in many senses, you will wake up , to continue to see this beautiful world !Yes the world is beautiful , if you don't feel or see it , you're not grateful enough ! 
• game- turn to your favourite game , you might break your high score and make your day ! 
• music- headphones on , all on your mind is music , great ! 
• Do something you like - you will be more motivated and productive in this circumstance , playing or piano , or even studying . 

4) Seek Help From Trusted Strangers

You're not alone , our society is really helpful to care about your concerns. There's a trusted stranger that is more than happy to offer you help and support 24/7 , anytime , anyday in Malaysia . Just dial 15999 , it's named the Talian Nur , calls can be made through fixed line at home , mobile phone or even public phone ! Just speak to them whatever that is bothering you , they are there to listen to you ! Well , you can also drop me a message to me on  Facebook  if you really need help , but i can't reply you right immediately like how Talian Nur works . If we don't have mutual friends , your message will fall into the 'other' folder automatically (junk folder). Besides , I don't reply to strangers that only say  'Hi '  to me , tell me more ! =) 

5) Avoid them 
To prevent future outbreaks , It's better to avoid them , talk less to them (just in case they are sensitive) . If they are your family , try to understand them ,rather than avoiding them because you can choose your friend but NOT family . Be grateful because God bless you with them , everything happens for a reason only God knows why ! 

As Kelly Clarkson eloquently said " what doesn't kill you makes you stronger ! " . Eradicate the negative thoughts and stay strong ! You will be a wiser person , conquer emotional intelligence (IQ) after all ! The most damaged people is the wisest , isn't that great ? You just gotta remember the good things behind it if you're enduring something you despise .

To wrap this up , check your list if they are really unreasonable , or you're being the one that unreasonable ! teehee. Characteristics of an unreasonable person .

• twist your words/meaning
• manipulative
• lie 
• verbally or emotionally abuse you ( mean /offensive words ）
• drive you insane ( you can't think well ）
• make you confused about what is right and what is wrong / what happened
• make you suicidal
• accuse you things that are not true
• sometimes violent ( they might just go and grab a knife )
• loud 
• never be grateful
• always complaining
• never realise nor reflect 
• very sensitive
• think that they are always right 
• will never change

Disclaimer : The information contained is for informational purpose only . None of the information contained constitutes nor should be seen as a professional psychological advice . Readers must be aware of the risks and consequences and should be more thoughtful before referring to the information provided . No legal or non-legal accountabilities will be held if any party will or likely to suffer any loses or any unpleasant happenings . I strongly recommend you to consult a psychologist /counsellor/psychiatrist if you experience any mental difficulties . All of the content above are the writer's own views and opinions based on real-life experience unless stated. No plagiarism is intended in any ways. I own none of the pictures above .

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Peace out (\/)

Love,
Kaylyn Ang